Posted by Beth Giesbrecht on Dec 17, 2019 05:05:29 PM
I just completed a project that I would not consider a success. Not a total failure but really not good. So I have choices: I can wallow in self-pity, blame others or I can learn from it and hopefully avoid the same problems in the next project.
Let’s pause to think about it another way: If everything were very easy for us all the time, would we learn anything? Carol Dweck in her excellent book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, would say “No.” Dweck, a Stanford University psychologist, has studied how children and adults deal with failure. She sees failure, with the right mindset, as essential to learning.
Dweck is a proponent of what she calls the “growth mindset.” She sees a growth mindset as “the kind of mindset that could turn failure into a gift.” Let’s explore what she means by looking briefly at its opposite: fixed mindset. Those people with a fixed mindset believe that you only have a certain amount of intelligence, a certain personality and a certain moral character. Your qualities are carved in stone.
Those people with a growth mindset, however, believe that “your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts, your strategies, and help from others.” So the “view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life.”
When fixed-mindset people fail, they see what happened as a direct measure of their competence and worth. The growth-mindset people in the same failure will, of course, be upset but then will think “I need to work harder or smarter.”
We probably all have a fixed mindset about some things (“People have the IQ they are born with.”) but not about other things. What can we do to improve our mindset? Dweck gives some practical advice:
So I hope this little article gives you some insight into how we view ourselves and our failures and sets you on a growth-mindset path. Now I’ve got to go make a list of what happened in my current project before my persona (Sarah) takes over. I’ve got to control her and see it as a gift.